Marriage and Couples Therapy
In the Beginning…
Most relationships begin blissfully enough. We feel euphoric, high on life, often as if we can do no wrong. But as we all know, life is filled with ups and downs, peaks and valleys, pleasure and pain. Relationships are no exception. Unfortunately, most people spend more time planning their wedding ceremony or their next vacation than focusing on what makes their relationship work and grow. But open communication and planning are integral to not only making a relationship last, but to keeping the love and excitement alive through the years. Couples counseling and pre-wedding counseling can be invaluable for creating the relationship you desire and keeping it strong into the future. Like other types of prevention, the best way to stop problems and issues from arising is to be proactive. And asking the tough questions — acknowledging where and what types of problems might arise before they do — can be the key to a lifetime of love and happiness.
How To Solve Marriage Problems – Marriage Counseling Success
Some people may feel that if you need counseling before marriage you probably shouldn’t be considering marriage in the first place. But to me, this seems shortsighted and a lot like saying there’s no need to see a doctor for a physical exam until you know you’re really sick.
What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.”
Is Couples Therapy Ever Too Late?
Many couples seek counseling for marriage difficulties only once they’ve reached the point where their marriage is on the verge of collapse. You did the best that you knew how. Now that you know better, you’ll do better.”
You did the best that you knew how. Now that you know better, you’ll do better.”
Couples Counseling Strategies
If you’re interested in the how-to’s of couples counseling, keep in mind that therapists have studied for years and so some concepts may be difficult to explain in a short synopsis. But to give you some idea, I’ll provide the names of some of the treatment modalities or guiding principles I use. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.”
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.”
Setting Proper Expectations for Couples Counseling
Many people seek couples counseling or family therapy thinking that if only the other person would change, everything would be okay. However, no matter how much we might like to believe otherwise, we can never change another person. We can only change ourselves. Change is not something that can successfully be forced upon someone else, and trying to do so gets couples into trouble all the time. The most important thing in life is to learn how to give love, and to let it come in.”
The most important thing in life is to learn how to give love, and to let it come in.”